How to: moving on

Moving on, from anything, can be one of the most difficult things in life that we have to do. Whether it is from a broken relationship, a dream with no success or after receiving bad news; it will never become easy. However, we can learn how we can deal with these emotions and situations. What to do and what to avoid. 

One of the first things to understand is that failure doesn't mean that YOU failed. It means that something didn't work out, and it's for the better that things will be different. Easier said than done, but necessary to know. You have to find closure and acceptance of issues that occured. At that moment it can be a hard thing to do, but without understanding why things didn't work out, it is hard to find peace. This stage can take a while. Sometimes it takes a couple of days, sometimes it can take months or years. 
''Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny''
In order to accept your situation, creating distance between you and what is holding you back can help. Is it a person, then you can try to avoid places where he or she might be. You can temporarily deactivate your social media accounts. Not only will you find peace with the situation, you will also get 'mental peace'. (Although this is a total different subject). It can also be a physical place that hurts you, allow yourself to avoid it. Look for the source of your pain and find a way that you can relieve it. 
''You can't look back - you just have to put the past behind you, and find something better in your future''
Changing the environment you are in, the friends you hangout with or yourself is not always a bad thing. It doesn't mean that you don't care anymore. It might be the one thing that you need in order to find yourself again. Perhaps you need to change yourself. Changing something that you are used to doing, maybe a daily routine. It could be how you view certain things or how you treat others. Change doesn't always have to be a bad thing, it could help you move on from your past. It could be changing schools, the place you live or the people you hangout with. Try to carefully look into your own life and pick out things that you can do in a different way. Maybe you need to quit something or actually start doing something. Anything that will make you feel better and helps you to forget the past and focus on your future. 

Let it go
My last advice is to just let it go. Once you erase something of your mind and stop worrying about it, you will find peace with whatever was bothering you. An example from the past; I once had a friend with whom I was really close. The only thing bothering me was that it was always me who planned things to do or reaching out. When we were together it was great, we were so much alike. I felt more like a burden to her, because she didn't initiated things. The more I paid attention to it, the more it hurt. I decided to stop trying so hard, and at first I was really bothered. But it hit me that perhaps this was just not the right person to have in my life. I decided to let it go and felt so much peace. I was actually quite happy and relieved that I didn't have our failing friendship on my mind anymore.  She is now part of my memories, not my destiny. 
''Some people come into our lives as a blessing, some people come into our lives as a lesson''

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